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Thursday, 24 January 2013

Meet Evy's Birth Mum

Brenton and I have been blessed with an incredible, beautiful daughter through an open adoption. It’s approaching one year since Rebecca, Evy's birth mum asked us if we would consider adopting. Rebecca is a brave, sacrificial, loving young woman who adores Evy. This is her story:

My name is Rebecca and I am writing this piece in Sammy’s blog to share my story of how I came to the decision to place my beautiful daughter Evelynn for adoption with Sammy and Brenton.
I was raised in a Christian household and my parents, like Sammy and Brenton, are Salvation Army Officers. In my teenage years I went through some major struggles and ended up pregnant at 15 with my first daughter. When I was 18 I found out I was pregnant with Evy. I was honestly panicked. I was already a solo mum to a wonderful little girl and, having a second baby, I knew would put a strain on me and her emotionally and financially.
I seriously considered abortion, even though I don’t believe in it, but since I was going to be doing it alone again it seemed like my only option. It wasn’t a good time in my life at all but then I started looking into adoption and what it all meant. I started the process and had looked into birth parents, but then at 20 weeks I decided that I couldn't do it and that I wanted my baby.
Our family was then moved down to Wellington for my parents' work and I decided to start over. That’s when I met Sammy and Brenton; they were officers at the church we started going to. They were wonderful, kind and loving people. Sammy especially helped me during my pregnancy, was at my baby shower, and we grew a close friendship.

On Tuesday 31st May 2011 at 8:20am, weighing 8lb 6oz, I gave birth to my amazing beautiful little girl, Evelynn Jade. She was perfect and I loved her to pieces.

Evy with her birth mum, Rebecca

Life was great for the next 8 months, until I started seeing someone. He was very manipulative, controlling and made me feel very low about myself. I also believe I experienced some form of postnatal depression (as I had previously had it with my oldest daughter.) Something in me changed and my whole life started to spin out of control. So I decided that the best thing to do was to make the best life I could for my children.
I approached Sammy in the final week of January 2012 and asked her if they would consider adopting Evelynn. I had no idea that they had already started the process of adoption and I truly believe God had this perfectly planned out and protected everyone involved.
On March 16th 2012 I signed my legal rights away as Evelynn’s mum and the legal process began. It was a long, drawn out and emotional process that took its toll on me physically, emotionally and mentally. It hurt more than anything I had ever been through but I know that it was the best decision I will ever make! Evelynn is with a safe, loving and incredible family. She will have the amazing Christian upbringing that I always wanted her to have, just like the one I had.
I still see Evelynn most weeks and get to babysit her. She still knows me really well, she calls my parents grandma and granddad and she still has an amazing bond with my other daughter. She has gained a whole new family while still keeping her original one and I am so blessed for Sammy and Brenton doing this amazing thing for me. We are now all like one big family and the bond and relationships built through this I believe will never fade or falter because God is in the center of it all!
Rebecca xx


22 comments:

  1. What an incredible story. sacrificial love on display...

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    1. Absolutely! I have so much respect for Rebecca!

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  2. That's my cuzzie! :) I can't believe the strength it took for Rebecca to do this and I would never want to have to make that decision myself. She received so much abuse from "friends" for making this decision, people who have also never had to make such a decision and I'm incredibly proud of her for making this life for Evelynn and happy for Sammy and Brenton too. xx


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  3. Wow, Rebecca you are incredibly brave and strong. I can't imagine how hard that must have been - to put you own needs and emotions aside and do what was best for Evelynn. Not many people in your situation are so selfless.
    I hope a lot of people read your story. Thanks so much for sharing it x

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  4. Here's hoping that many people are inspired and encouraged by Rebeccas story.

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  5. thank you for putting that on your blog, it was very interesting and wonderful to read, I know Sammy as we did our nursing training together, Sammy was a great friend to myself and my four children when we were going through difficult times when i was a single mother, my children loved her,Sammy is a very special person she has a heart of gold, and it sounds like Rebecca does to, I am so glad you were put together and I think God knew exactly what he was doing :) thank you for sharing your story.

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  6. Oh, Donna, you're too kind! Lets catch up next time I'm in PN. xo

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